How To Be an Online Conversation Starter

Words of Encouragement

Secondly, you can disguise questions by asking your match to ‘help you’. For example: “Okay I need your help. I like my coffee from Starbucks but my friend refuses to accept this and says home brew is better— want to weigh in and potentially save a friendship?”

Again, it disguises a question in a more fun and involved way (everyone loves giving their opinion – but really Starbucks or home brew?). This works even better if you have picked out something they clearly know about from their bio. In this instance, maybe their bio said they were a coffee-lover. For more ways to learn about words of encouragement and how to be a conversation starter, check out our previous article here. 

Improvise

There’s nothing wrong with taking a closer look at their profile to learn more. Did you come across pics of them traveling? Ask for travel advice or share your experience of visiting that place. Do they love yoga? Say you’ve always wanted to try and ask if it’s as tricky as it looks. Not only does this grab their attention as this is the stuff they actually like, it shows you’ve put in effort.

Have Some Fun!

Be mean to keep them keen (ish!). Playful teasing can be a great way to wiggle your way in. It’s brave and flirty—two things your match will love.

For example: “Hmmmm did you really eat that entire pizza in that second pic?” or “Can you really surf or did you fall over right after the pic was taken?’” How mean you go is up to you, remember the goal is flirtatious teasing, not to lower their self-esteem. 

Risk is Part of The Game

Some risks are worth taking, especially ones which could land you a hot online date with a Russian beauty. Why not give them an ultimatum such as ‘I’m going to give you three guesses on my favorite food/film/hobby/drink, if you get it wrong I’ll unmatch…’.

Of course you don’t actually have to unmatch with them if they get it wrong, but everyone likes a challenge and it makes learning about each other a fun experience. 

Online Dating Games

Some online daters respond better to light-hearted conversation starters, so why not try a game? Games like ‘would you rather’, or ‘truth or dare’ can be terrific ice breakers. It’s entertaining for both of you and you’ll probably accidentally learn a lot about each other.